by Tohan Omorodion
So yesterday, I was talking to a very good friend, a minister’s child whom I have known for quite some time now. And very similar to my childhood was born and raised in the church. Well, here’s an excerpt of how our conversation went.
Friend: I’m not a Christian anymore,
Friend: I’m not religious, as a matter of fact I run away from religious people
Me: You can say that again- I don’t blame you. Trust me I’ve witnessed people who prayed for over 4 hours daily, call themselves a firebrand Christians, but also from the same mouth rain insults, abuse and disrespect people in worse ways than a pagan would. So I feel you but wait a minute did you say you are not a Christian anymore? I’m confused
Friend: Well the thing is “I don’t even believe in God”. I used to be all churchy but not anymore.
Me: … wait what? Really? So what do you believe in now?
Friend: Nothing …I don’t believe in anything
Me: Why is that?
Friend: … I have read the bible cover to cover and also read other books and they have lead me to the conclusion that God does not exist. He’s simply a figment of our imagination. Do you remember Abraham who was going to sacrifice his son? Well fast forward almost 4000 years later, in modern day, If someone were to do that and say God told them to, right now, which some have, they would be deemed to have a mental illness, arrested and thrown so far away in jail you couldn’t trace their foot prints. Who says that wasn’t the case with Abraham?
Me: hmm …
Friend: The bible isn’t the word of God it’s only an account of events, just like any other book written by people, and not primarily written in English.
Me: uhhh well…. (Scratching my head)
*…Have you ever told a friend something and then the news spreads around and by the time it came back to you, It magically grows limbs, 7 heads and children and you are like what the hell?!!! I didn’t say that!* Right!
Well, this conversation went on and on for 2 hours and some serious points were made that were very difficult to argue without proper ammunition. In the end my heart sunk to my feet. I bet you think I was disappointed because my friend had “fallen from grace” as you may call it? But the opposite was quite the case. I felt horrible because I can so relate with these arguments. They were too genuine to rebuttal. I was so shocked that I had nothing to say except “ uhhh well I believe in God and Jesus” and that sounded so lame. For some reason I felt disappointed in myself for not being able to defend the gospel to someone who by the world’s standards had backslid.
Me: I believe in a higher power but salvation is personal, you have to find that link with God on your own.
Friend: What’s salvation? What’s it saving me from? Hell? What is hell really?
Me: Well, have you read the book of Revelations?
Friend: Yes I have, where’s the rest of the bible?
Me: uhhh …
Immediately, I realized that it’s so much easier to preach to a layman than an enlightened one. Because in my opinion, the mere practice of true Christianity is by faith, and it pretty much is having confidence or trust in something without proof. So except you’ve had a personal experience with God, it’s just a long thing for me to try to explain why the bible and modern day can be so contradictory. Even now, I’m still short of words and plan on writing a part 2 of this column after doing some deep diving with another minister’s child to see what an appropriate response could have been.
Have you ever questioned your faith? Let us know what keeps you strong in your beliefs regardless of your religion.