“The moment you realize that your femininity is your power you would have no need to wear the skirt and the pants together” - Tohan
“A feminine woman understands that a woman was not created to do anything a man can do but rather to do EVERYTHING a man cannot do” - Tohan
Virtue, tenderness, and class are key when it comes to femininity and having all three is the most amazing compliment to a masculine man.
Here are 5 steps to becoming a more feminine you
1. Change your mindset
We are at a place in our society where competition is at its peak. Let me tell you something. I don’t know about you but for me trying to be all that and a bag of chips with sprinkles on top is extremely exhausting. Now here’s the mindset that you need to get away from. It’s the one that says I don’t need him. I don’t need a man.
In our community, especially in the black community today, women are praised for being strong, carry the whole clan and their baby clans on our backs. We go from home making to the mechanic to the driver and to the breadwinner. We are praised for being strong and have the backs of a mule. This is an incredibly exhausting role to play when you are a feminine woman, because femininity in itself takes a lot of time and effort. So what we find is that most women like that are just not feminine women, they turn out to be a bob the builder or a masculine woman who is a 100% control freak .
So what am I trying to say here, I’m just saying that for a feminine woman, life isn’t that complicated. She is comfortable resting in the understanding that she is a divine compliment to a man. She is smart, alluring, and tender. She rests knowing her role to her masculine and a masculine man understands this concept and gladly plays his role.
So changing your mindset from the I can do bad all by myself mindset to a mindset of openness, tenderness, desirability and lovingness is the first step to becoming a more feminine you.
2. Master the art of receiving
From creation, if you believe in the Bible that is. Women have always received. When God looked at man he said. Ah! Guy! You can’t be by yourself oh. This is not good at all. You need a companion and then he created woman. But he could have created woman from scratch like he did man, instead he said hey dude! Adam, give her one rib. That was the first time a woman received. He made woman so beautiful and carefully that even the host of heaven became jealous. Anyway, the point is that receiving is part of being feminine sayeth the Lord. What you chose to receive is up to you but I say that to say this; be a receptacle of good things. It takes practice, but embrace the understanding that as a woman, better is always on the way to you.
3. Make time for yourself
The three areas every feminine woman must care for is your smell, your hair and your body. Grooming takes time, so invest the time to love and appreciate the gift of femininity that you have been endowed with. Develop feminine routines and really just appreciate yourself. A masculine man knows this and often at times they are willing to help you become or stay a feminine you. For more ideas on how to care for your body visit “The Skin” page above.
4. Clean up your appearance and clean ups your act
Don’t forget we talked about class earlier. No matter how naturally beautiful you might be or how slim, or thick or rounded you may be, if your appearance looks like a character from the walking dead or garbage falls our every time ones mouth is opened. You are not in any way shape of form considered to be a feminine woman. Femininity requires composure, self respect and class. So it is not only a good idea to clean up your looks (and that doesn’t mean that you become generic, instead it means pay attention to yourself) but also to clean up your act. Looks are only 25% of a true feminine woman and character makes up the rest.
5. Learn and routinely practice feminine habits.
Thanks for reading…